Ask open-ended questions Seek outside counselling Question: We just found out that our teenager has been sexually active for the past several months. How do we deal with the problem without alienating our child? This is a significant family problem and it deserves a loving and thoughtful response. The goal is to contain the damage and coach your adolescent toward more healthy and rational decisions without driving a wedge into the parent-child relationship. The first thing you need to remember is to think before you react.
Several readers had questions about young people who were questioning their sexual orientation. My question is about the Q Questioning subgroup of L. I am unsure how best to help my younger teens a son 13 and daughter 15 steer a course through a very complex terrain. Their high school has a sophisticated urban middle class culture, strong and clear antibullying policies and practices and an environment of tolerance which reflects that in our own home.
Otherwise confident moms and dads often feel tongue-tied and awkward when it comes to talking about puberty and where babies come from. But the subject shouldn't be avoided. Parents can help foster healthy feelings about sex if they answer kids' questions in an age-appropriate way. When do kids start becoming curious about their bodies? From as early as infancy, kids are interested in learning about their own bodies.